How we go on

  

It’s been three years since she left my side, three long years: who

Could have imagined that we wouldn’t live our lives together till

The end. I keep questioning this word ‘till the end.’ What is the

End? Or what is the beginning? If there cannot be an end, as we

All say and believe through faith, than what is the explanation

Of a ‘start’? Every beginning has an end, and every end has a

Beginning, so it’s better that I rephrase my question, which is

That it wasn’t even in our wildest dreams that we wouldn’t grow

Old together, seeing each other age, side by side, counting each

Other’s wrinkles, making fun of each other, watching our children

Grow before us.

She didn’t leave me, she simply died. Yes, leaving someone isn’t

Simple but dying is, it’s so abrupt and silly; so easy. Divorces,

Fights, separations, are all so complicated and miserable. You

Either wish to live together in peace, or wish you never took

The decision to pick a fight with your better half, but why did

It happen to me? We had nothing of that sort going; we were

Living happy and contented lives; we were the best of friends. The

Term husband and wife seemed childish to us as we cherished a

Unique relationship, yet she died and left me. She left me when

We were at the zenith of our existence. Why now? Why me?

Why us? She wasn’t infected with any deadly disease; she was

Mercilessly a victim to a bomb blast and, obviously in such cases,

Nothing really happens to bring the guilty to justice: just a lot of

guilt and remorse left for the affected. No reason, no nothing,

just question after question.

This happened to me, or as I prefer to put it, ‘This happened

to us.’ Physically we may be apart, but not a single day has

Passed that I don’t miss her and I don’t remember her in one

way or another. Nonetheless, this destiny that I had to collide

with happened just after nine years or our marriage, the nine

years that I call the greatest years of my life, my happiest days.

No doubt that I had a wonderful childhood and a brilliant

teenage life where we did all sorts of crazy things, but those

years that I spent with her were defining for me. They were

fun and energetic; it was soft and subtle; there was peace and

contentment; it was everything wrapped up in one relationship.

But what am I to do now as she was no longer by my side? No

one to express my inner self to; no shoulder to rest upon, and

no shoulder to give her support; no one to relieve my tired soul;

no one to crack a joke to; no company to make my inner season

pleasant.

Daily I pass by those restaurants and parks where we went to

eat and stroll. They too must be gazing at me and wondering

where my partner is, maybe laughing at me, or maybe just feeling

sorry for me. But I guess these structures have seen far too much

of everything besides me, things that I may not even be able to

imagine. They must have loads of secrets hidden within them;

to them I’m probably just another episode of the larger story.

But these thoughts fade as my attention goes back to her. Why

was I a target of fate, or destiny, or whatever you may call it?

Had I been so bad? Was I being punished for my sins? Or was

I just a victim of the system we call the world, the system we

call life? Are we all subject to this fear and the inevitable fact

that always looms over us? It’s like a dagger whose shadow is

always cast upon our necks yet we pretend as if nothing is wrong,

I remember the times we spent together, so full of hope and

zeal: we will do this we, will do that. Her soul was so lively, so

energetic, always bucking me up when I was feeling gloomy. She

made every facet of me shine.

How will I travel this long road without her? How will I pursue

all that we both dreamed of? It is like a mountain in front of

me, staring at me. The world has forgotten her, although she was

always dear and near to everyone, not a soul could deny this fact.

But this world stops for no one and gradually one is forgotten.

How can they do this to her when she had only been kind to

them? Everyone is carrying on with their lives again, except me.

It made me angry, and I wanted to punish everyone, but then

something inside of me always stopped me and said that maybe

they do pray for her and remember her in their own silent way,

as nobody can cry their whole life.

It was work and home and that was all that was left of me. Work

in some way took my mind off the things that bothered me, but

still from time to time she was always present in one way or

another. Even eating a pizza at lunch would bring back memories

of her, as she simply adored it and would always drag me to go

and have pizza on weekends.

Was this God’s will or was it just a freak accident? If it was

God’s will, why was it done by a mortal? All sorts of questions

arose in my ever-questioning mind. Life sometimes puts a person

in a very serious, tricky situation. Not knowing what to believe

and what to deny, one is in the midst of a celestial, universal law

which we all have fallen into and given no choice to object to

anything.

Time kept passing at its usual pace; the seasons came and went

one after another. Her grave still looked new as it was the day

she was buried. I usually went there in the evenings to visit her

and sit beside her just as I used to sit beside her at home, silently

talking with her and praying for her to be happy in whichever

dimension she’s in.

One day after a long days work, I decided to walk back home

instead of taking the bus, it was about a 45-minute walk, but

something inside me, telling me that I should walk, and indeed it

was a nice idea to walk home as I hadn’t ventured out much since

she had gone. On walking home, I had to pass through lots of

busy markets and shopping areas. Going through these areas and

seeing the activity and life there felt as if everyone was making

fun of me and laughing at my pain. Those same markets, those

same shops that we used to shop at, places where we had brought

each other presents, where we used to eat, where we used to . . .

live. Life was still so normal, so happy, as if nothing had changed

in the world. It was just as I had left it three years back. Had

time stopped or to them did my pain mean so little? I felt like

crying. What else could I do? I missed her so much, on reaching

home I dried my tears and washed my face with cold water.

That particular night was somewhat quieter than the nights

I had been spending. Lying on my bed in my dimly-lit room

I struck a match to light a cigarette. Puffing and inhaling the

soothing, smoky aroma I closed my eyes and kept on smoking

with my eyes shut. It was as if I couldn’t open my eyes knowing

that I could, but lacking some uncontrollable, forced intention.

‘Is that really you?’ I said. ‘Is that really you?’ She put her soft

hand on my mouth, a sensation I had not felt for three years,

but it felt as if it had been just yesterday. We kept staring at

each other in silence and awe as tears trickled down my cheeks.

She was a glowing illumination, her smile, soft and subtle just

as always.

‘Why do you cry? You have no idea what death is, than why do

you grieve? Didn’t we talk about death when we were together in

the world? Now it’s happened to us and it had to be me. Don’t

think that I’m in any unfamiliar place, you cannot see from where

you are now, so don’t judge. When your time comes, and you

are with me, only then will you understand what I mean. But,

my dear, you have to live. Don’t grieve. We love each other, and

people who love don’t grieve, they only rejoice. Rejoice for the

times spent together, rejoice as we once again will be together.

Our separation is only temporary.’

‘Remember when I used to go to my mother’s home and you

used to become sad; just consider this my visit, as my mother

and my whole family are with me and I’m very happy. But you

will come in your own time. We had our adventures together in

this world and what magnificent adventures those were. And

certainly we will have them again, I promise you my love. But

you have to live for me, and for us. Go live your next adventure,

then you can also share that with me. But do not grieve any

longer, because then I cannot enjoy the bounties that await me

here. Lets enjoy our gifts and our blessings on our own sides so

we have exciting stories to tell each other.’

‘I may not be with you, but I’m always there inside you. I’m as

you. We have never been apart since the day we met. We can

never be apart, never. Don’t kill that lively person inside you.

Remember we used to discuss death and how it’s better to die

in an instant than to suffer and die in misery? Well that’s what

happened. I departed instantly. Isn’t that good?’

‘We all have to come here sooner or later. You taught me to smile

in difficult times so now I’m giving that back to you. Smile and

be happy my love. The place that you are in, and I was in, is like

running water, so make the most of it. Take risks, leave no dream

unlived. It’s not a rehearsal, it’s a one time live act, so be happy

as I am and make me proud. Do the things we dreamed of doing

together, and don’t waste your life. Cherish every moment as we

did, and remember that’s why I’m happy: because I didn’t waste

a single moment with you. I lived, and now I have no regrets.’

‘Look into my eyes my dear.’ Her eyes were gleaming like radiant

stars on a clear night, soft yet assertive, just as her nature had

been as she always guided me through difficult moments, and

she was once again present for me, to rescue me.

We were holding each other and smiling; smiling with passion

and contentment. Her glowing face was saying a million things

in the silence; she was always with me and always within me,

just as I was always with her and within her.

I have learnt the valuable lesson, which time does not pass. It never

passes. Time is constant—it simply changes.

For all time

Hello papa how are you feeling? Oh Yes im pretty good my love just the usual complaints associated with old age, my daughter Nargis always came at the exact time every single day before going to work as she had to give me my daily shot of some vitamin B12 injectable medicine which the doctor prescribed as according to him it was mandatory for my flimsy body at this age but on the whole I was thankful that their was enough mobility in me to do my basic chores and it maybe of this B12 thing? Who knows? Sit papa she instructed me with an assertive tone, funny how the very offspring you raise from a helpless little soul now is doing it the other way round ahh the bewilderment of nature, I sat in my very old rocking chair that I used to rock this very same girl at her tender age now standing in front of me who has now become a practicing doctor, rolling up my sleeve my cuff button broke………….. >WHY does the button have to break now when you have to rush to school son my mother yelled at the top of her voice , mother give me another shirt please I just have 20 minutes left , okay okay just let me take the kettle off the stove , she hurriedly multi-tasked and found me a new shirt from the closet, but it’s not ironed I pleaded  its ok your cardigan will help you with that now hurry to school your already getting late , I briskly walked my way through the park which was a shortcut to school luckily I reached just in time when the bell rung………….>OH papa why does the doorbell have to ring at the wrong time who can it be at this early hour, it’s probably the newspaper man collect the newspaper and pay him 185/- rupees it’s in the broken vase behind the sofa, okay papa………>TODAY was our newspaper assignment our class teacher sir samuel had been guiding us about this for weeks as we had to pick similar stories from various tabloids and point out what is different about the same event reported by various reporters it’s what you call the inaccuracy of history which can never be precise , it was a very exciting task so we all gathered in the hall after our two initial classes to become the wise one out , the only reward was that a photograph alongwith a certificate will be plastered on the main school notice board which was a huge achievement of getting noticed and patted on the back by pals and teachers alike ………….>IT wasn’t 185/- rupees it was Rs.195/= rupees papa, oh well I must have fallen 10 rupees short.

Nargis ripped the polythene packing off the disposable syringe…………> YES rip it harder man this rubber dingy inflator will never open if you carry on like this , well this is the thing with new stuff it’s so tightly wrapped, but nonetheless I finally managed to open the thing , it was always fun going camping with the lads it was the snow-capped mountains of swat this time, normally we would go to the deosai plains in baltistan, but we wanted a little change this time , we just reached early this morning after catching a jeep from Mingora, it was certainly paradise , from what we heard going deeper into the mountains was pure magical delight , it was about seven of us each going through their assigned tasks of setting up camp, we brought everything except for the most basic utensil “a kettle” yes I wonder how we forgot that so me and JJ I always called him JJ short for Jalees Jadoon we both strolled to the nearest market which was about two km away the stroll was so soothing all we could listen to was the gale sweeping down from the peaks and the various exotic chirping of extraordinary species of aves which we never saw in the city, we finally reached the market place which was a nice cosy place an amazing sight these places are usually crowded  but the only people we saw were some locals and campers like us it was a market stuck in time small wooden shops with wrinkled old faces gleaming at us their were shops of  nuts , tea , and staple food mostly, but we couldn’t find any shops that sold kettles or kitchen utensils so we finally asked a local, he beckoned and kindly guided us into a place that we couldn’t have found by ourselves , he literally squeezed himself  between two wooden shops that opened up into a market square, covered by the expanse of pine trees making it a natural green ceiling, it was certainly a wonder, their were more people here and the variety that the shops sold was much larger , we immediately noticed a shop pots and kettles were hung outside , we thanked the man and made our way towards the shop and selected a large copper kettle which he sold us for 450/- rupees it was enough to provide tea for seven , we walked around a little munching on freshly hot  roasted corn being sold right in the market place, twenty minutes later we were back at camp and the lads had all done a wonderful job the camp was all set up , sleeping bags lined up inside , a placed for cooking near the river bank , yes it was immaculately done , so who wants hot steaming tea , their faces lit up and cheered , I washed up the kettle in the river water which was freezing…………..> PAPA the water is freezing how do you wash up? Is the geyser faulty? I heard my daughter shout from the washroom, do you have to wash your hands before administering this injection, well papa it’s just precautionary hygiene , well something must have happened the water was hot last night I said , Nargis returned and took out a glass vial from her bag it was the usual brown glass vial from which she always broke the top off she held the vial in her left hand and the disposable syringe in her right sinking the needle into the vial she started to extract the medicine sucking it in…………> SUCK it harder , I can’t she giggled and coughed at the same time , it was the first time I told my wife to try a cigarette , what’s the fun she always exclaimed  , fun I don’t smoke for fun  it’s relaxing and soothing , but maybe you won’t understand only a smoker will know what I mean but hey im not forcing you I just always thought that women who smoke look sexier and sort of erotic , she gave me a glare, okay okay I said withdrawing so do you want to go shopping I said, her face lit up instantly why not , so we got ready and made our way to sadder a busy place with lots of hustle and bustle where one could get almost everything from a needle to an elephant! We started with the basic groceries and worked our way up to more unneeded stuff but certainly more tempting especially for her , we entered this new departmental store a new flashy one which just recently opened I was initially reluctant but I always gave into her desires , these new stores always scared me due to their price tags because I thought that they will certainly rip off customers to fill in the massive expenses they put into decoration and marketing , it’s the glossy image and not real value I thought , she headed straight to the jewelry section which was on the ground floor so obviously it was easily noticed , her eyes shone like polished marbles , she pointed to a set of ear rings Aww aren’t these  just lovely , hmm yes they certainly are , but don’t get carried away it’s okay we aren’t in a hurry you might find something much better , she kept on choosing and discarding for almost an hour , beautiful things are hard to choose from  aren’t they I said looking at her , aghh yes she said angrily they are I just can’t decide which earrings I should buy, but I chose the most beautiful thing with utmost ease and surety I said putting my face directly in front of hers , she turned red and blushed oh really then you chose if your choice is so perfect , so I brought her a pair of earrings a maroon colored set fixed with some precious stone, at least they claimed that it was precious , but gifts aren’t given because of their price tag , it’s the emotion and sincere love behind it , thanks love thanks it will go just right with my new dress , hey suddenly im all thirsty I said are you oh yes I certainly am , so we turned towards the food section and grabbed two Popsicles , we sucked on it like two school children giggling and devouring it at the same time, drips made way and fell from our cheeks……….> THE medicine dripped as the syringe was almost full, she took it out from the vial and let it flow out a little thrusting her thumb upwards and carefully measuring the liquid on the printed scale, she rubbed my upper arm just below the shoulder with a cotton ball and pressed the sharp needle to tear my skin tissues and make way to the nerves, she slowly released the medicine into my body which was slowly reducing in the syringe and entering my body and provide it with its B12 needs science said that it gives life to new blood cells……………………….> A new life was given to us , blessed upon us in the shape of a beautiful girl, we had finally become parents after three long years, she was conceived by a C-section surgery, when they brought my wife back to her room from the operation theater she was partially unconscious because of the anesthesia, I had already been handed over the baby by the doctor and slowly whispered in her ear , it’s a girl , she exhaustedly smiled , after about twenty five minutes she was conscious and stable , it was the most glorifying moment of our lives we were on top of the world , making all sorts of plans already , just like making plans before her upcoming first birthday, before her first day at school, before entering college , just before her graduation ceremony , before completion of her MBBS degree , and before marrying her off , she wept that night like never before , cuddled up with me , at least she could cry , I couldn’t even show my tears which were locked up inside me as it would make her loose hope , I assured her that the life your about to lead will be a marvelous one , even better than the life I gave you, you’re gonna have much more fun then you had with me , Nargis cried like a baby her tears dribbled down my cheeks while kissing me and not letting go……….> A drop of medicine dribbled down from my arm  when she withdrew the needle alongwith a tear from my wet eyes, Oh papa not again , you know that you were right that I will be immensely happy after I get married and I am I’ve told you again and again, Oh I know my love that’s the only blessing that keeps me going, to see you happy , the only benefit I get from your medicine is that I relive my most cherished days for all time.                

Wheel of Fate

Then the wheel of fate spun

We opened our eyes in wonder simultaneously

You witnessed a posh maternity home

I witnessed an overcrowded ward

You were driven home in a luxury sedan

I was taken home in a rackety rickshaw

You were pampered with Satan and silk

I was wrapped in a torn blanket

You were fed fortified milk and cereal

I was given any fluid

You ate a feast fit for a king

I ate stale bread and waited for charity

You wore the best attire and played with the best toys

I wore torn rags spoons and stones were my toys

You looked smart going to school

I saw you go everyday soaked in filth

You went to your office to change and influence the world

I carried my shovel to fill my belly

You married the most Georges girl

No girl thought I was worthwhile

You led a dignified, pious, adventurous, fun filled life

I tried to survive

You died with honour pomp and grandeur

I vanished away as an expendable

The wheel of fate halted.

A delicacy of peshawar

KICHALOO PERA

A traditional spicy food of Peshawar often taken as a salad, in the local language of HINDKO its called "KICHALOO PERA" it can be considered a sort of desi fast food it is basically a taro a widely cultivated tropical Asian aroid plant (Colocasia esculenta) having broad peltate leaves and large starchy edible tubers, it is boiled and cut in small cubes than mixed with strong spices and vinegar.

If I die tommorow

If I die tomorrow

Will it be any different from today?

If I die tomorrow

Will the sun not rise, as it did today?

If I die tomorrow

Will the plants not receive the first dew drops, as they did today?

If I die tomorrow

Will children stop going to school, as they did today?

If I die tomorrow

Will babies stop being born, as they did today?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone quit their job, not as today?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone stop laughing, as they laughed today?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone stop eating, as they ate today?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone stop going on vacations, as they did yesterday?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone quit to enjoy life, as they did today?

If I die tomorrow

Will anyone stop being themselves, as they are today?

If I die tomorrow

It will be no different then today.